One theme I noticed in the last 4 or 5 years was finances. That is always a big one and while I do understand that how do you survive under the pressures of a bad relationship? Do you just give up and leave everything to start over? Is that selfish? Especially if you have kids. Or better to “take one for the team” and stay FOR the kids? Who is winning here? My answer? No one.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not judging any of our decisions. Oh no. I would not do that and even if I started to do that I feel my spirit guides would chime right in and cosmically kick me in the kisser. I know this problem all too well and it’s a real roller coaster ride between what your heart knows is right and what your logical mind/ego tells you that you have to worry about. i.e. money, insurance, housing, job, etc
So there some of us are feeling “stuck”. On the outside people cannot understand our predicament. They might even feel like we created our own problem. First maybe we made a bad relationship decision anyway or maybe we just can’t see how we will survive without two incomes. Maybe even just scared to be alone. The new age community even has an opinion sometimes about imagining what you want or even having faith it already exists and taking that LEAP! Leap? Yup, not to get cynical with you or anything but I’m pretty sure it was that leap and my precious spontaneity that I pretty much survived on to get me where I am now. So I’ve deduced thus far that LEAPS are not my friend. You? J I say that with a little giggle.
If you’re like me or could ever relate to this somehow you found all the reasons not to leave. It may not even be a love issue at this point. Perhaps you already gave up on the relationship a long time ago and have not real emotional attachment. Maybe it’s guilt? Or maybe you feel you have unfinished karmic business? Job? Money? The kids? Nix all those excuses, while they have some validity let’s face it. We’re scared.
Some of us have solid families that would take us in with open arms. Some may not. We may even have good friends that would. Yet we hesitate and continue to make excuses while waking up each morning realizing we are in an endless nightmare. I ask myself this time and time again. Why? I mean I know the reasons I can come up with but why? The new age community gurus whom I adore, honestly, have suggested because it’s our thoughts. We haven’t THOUGHT them out of our reality. We focus on the things we don’t like instead of what we do want. Do we? I don’t beat myself up about the past any more. I have resolved my anger and resentment. I have seen the good in the person and have acknowledged the things I’m grateful for but my reality is the same. Why? Is seeing the good things keeping me stuck in place? Maybe it’s seeing the silver lining that is keeping the hope alive?
What I found is that when I focus on the GOOD things and the things I’m grateful for I am also attaching all that good to the person “in question”. That means we’re taking the GOOD with the BAD and for many of us that bad is really a big problem.
Abraham Hicks says we are STUCK in the problem solution instead of the reality we want. By moving our thoughts into the “vortex” of where everything is good, we manifest what we want/need. That’s a tough one for those of us finding ourselves stuck in the vortex of “I’m so sick of this! I’m tired of my life! I don’t want this person here but what do I do?”
Abraham Hicks says you can’t turn your attention to a problem even to “clean it” because you activate that reality”. Watch the videos and tell me what you think!
Going to go eat and anxiously awaiting some feedback!
Lily Belle <3