In the dating world, we try to express the most beautiful parts of ourselves first. If you’ve ever recognized a new look on a person who has recently divorced or separated. They start to bring attention to themselves through their make-up, hair and apparel. You’ve suddenly seen a new side to the person that you have never seen before. This is an effort on the person’s part to find someone to love them by showing their best side of themselves. This also applies to character as well. A person will bring out every good aspect of themselves or at least attempt to “fit the mold” and even tolerate things they normally wouldn’t in normal circumstances. It’s like an advertisement. Have you ever went out to buy anything based on an advertisement only to bring it home and be disappointed with the product? That’s marketing! We show the best sides of a product or in this case of a person to attract the buyer. The product, once in hand, may not prove to be as good as the ad has shown and many times a person can only limitedly express a persona as it is not their own truth. Then you have the problem of finding someone who can only love you based on what they see and not any more than you actually really love yourself.
On the road to love, some people will transform into something they think SOMEONE else wants. So what happens later? Eventually people fall back into their own truth, at least what their truth is within the confines of how they love themselves. This could change a relationship after a long while; in fact this is why some of us will go through many relationships
or even marriages. Each time we walk away we find more of our own truth.
Entering 2012, we are coming into more awareness of who we truly are and we are also breaking away from old patterns and relationships to prepare ourselves for a brighter future. This may be expressed as people losing jobs, quitting jobs, ending relationships and moving. Perhaps you look at these as negative but it’s only preparation! It’s time to work on the real love affair, the one True Love in your life and that is YOU!
So, “who you love”? Is it the real you? Is it someone mirroring aspects of yourself you need to face? Or are you just being something you are not? This is a little mantra I wrote to help me work on loving and accepting myself. Use it at least once a day or any time you are feeling frustration in your situation with others.
“I accept your love; with gratitude and without
We must understand on this path to love ourselves wholly that others are working toward this as well through each interaction. We can
make the process easier by working harder on our own self love but it doesn’t immediately mean we won’t run into some challenges. In the long run, you will attract exactly what you put out and reap only as good as you allow for
Love & Light,